Around five years ago, my junior A came to my room in boarding school for help. She just had a fight with her roommate B. They both came from China, though distant parts. As single child at the age of 15, it is their first time leaving home and stayed with strangers. A came from a major city in Southern China and brought toiletries from home. The idea of sharing toiletries never appeared in her mind. On the other hand, B came from a smaller city in Northeastern China, used to share everything with her friends. B was upset that A put another soap in the bathroom after B put one. B thought A had a problem with B as A did not gladly share B’s soap. A thought it was odd for B to use others toiletries. Slowly the tension built up between them. And they started accusing each other behind the back. I understood the situation perfectly for I myself went through the same confusion when I first arrived and shared a room with girls from distant parts and different culture. People from Northeastern China are famous for their generosity and warmth towards new acquaintance. However, not everyone share and enjoy their warm attitude. It can be strange and offending to other people who need a much longer time to be comfortable with their “invasion” of individual’s private space. After all, I do not think this is a serious problem. Being confined within their city prevented my juniors from noticing the existence of different interpretation of the same behaviour. So I suggested them to explain to each other their thoughts of the issue and conflict became a laughing matter after all.
Hi Susan,
ReplyDeleteNice post, I like it. I'm glad you found an amusing application to the lessons learnt in class. I have high hopes for you Susan; that you will one day be a high flying Chinese professional communicator.
Cheers
Hi Mark,
ReplyDeleteI feel so honored that you have such high hope for me. I did not like this post though. I cannot come out with any more interesting cases.
But think you for liking it!
Susan
Hey Susan, I thought I had responded to your post much earlier. As I came back through though, I see no comment by me. Sorry!
ReplyDeleteThis is concise and fairly clear. I have to admit, when you sue the A and B as names, I have to read a few times to figure out who did what. (On the MAPP test I would probably not be suited for any career requiring a mathematical mind.)
Your example does clearly illustrate the differences between the two girls, and as you suggest, regions. I guess since you know others from the same regions, you can then generalize about the behaviors. That sort of variation, place all the dynamic changes taking place, must make China an amazing place to live in or visit.
Thanks for sharing!
Hey Susan, I thought I had responded to your post much earlier. As I came back through though, I see no comment by me. Sorry!
ReplyDeleteThis is concise and fairly clear. I have to admit, when you sue the A and B as names, I have to read a few times to figure out who did what. (On the MAPP test I would probably not be suited for any career requiring a mathematical mind.)
Your example does clearly illustrate the differences between the two girls, and as you suggest, regions. I guess since you know others from the same regions, you can then generalize about the behaviors. That sort of variation, plus all the dynamic changes taking place, must make China an amazing place to live in or visit.
Thanks for sharing!